"The sky was full of stars.. She was deeply looking into his eyes by holding his hands.. He was also looking at her in the same way.. But the feeling was not same for both of them.."
Love is a very complicated thing because it requires two people – two individuals who are usually as different as they are similar. Love itself is not something that exists outside the people who feel that they are in love. If that were the case, then every time one person fell in love with another, the other would automatically fall in love as well.
I really wish it were that simple, but believe me when I tell you it isn't. Many of you have probably been in a similar situation to the one I described above and can likewise vouch that being in love with someone does not guarantee that this person will love you back. However, like beauty exists in the eyes of the beholder, love exists in the mind of the lover. For this reason, it is possible to make someone fall in love with you.
I should probably first start by saying that sometimes you simply can't and won't make some people fall for you. Love isn't purely rational and sometimes people fall for people that they will never have. This is the reality that we all live in. Just because you feel a certain way about a person does not guarantee that this person will or can feel the same way about you. In order to love people, they have to fill certain needs.
It gets even more complicated when you think about all the little things that we find that we don't like about people – things that have become en-grained in us, starting at a very young age. All of this leads to the reality of the situation. All these things about a person that bother us make it difficult for us to be happy and being happy is what love is all about.
It isn't always the imperfections that people see in you that makes them not love you. It gets even more complicated because falling in love isn't just about meeting the right person. It's about meeting the right person at the right time – at a time when you are capable and willing to fall in love.
If the individual you love isn't in the right state of mind to love you then that person won't love you. If he or she is not willing to fall in love, if he or she isn't willing to consider the possibility that he or she may love you, then he or she will never love you. It's not about falling in love, it's about letting yourself fall in love. It's about opening yourself up and making yourself vulnerable – something that many people refuse to do.
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